Are you worried about your child’s behaviour?
All children develop at different rates: academically, socially, emotionally and mentally. Parents, teachers and their peers all have an influence on a child’s development. Sometimes children develop patterns of behaviour that can give a cause for concern, such as aggressive outbursts, becoming withdrawn, defiance and over sensitivity (not within normal parameters).
As adults we need to understand that often these behaviours are a child’s way of processing things in their life. Sometimes children need additional support to understand the emotions that trigger such behaviours.
As a school we have been recognised by numerous external sources as being a professional body who work extremely hard at pastoral care and putting in place individual support packages as needed. A lot of work already happens at school both universally with all our children but also specifically with individuals.
However, we recognise that at times, you as parents, also need additional support to understand and cope with particular behaviours. We don’t have all the answers or a quick fix but what we do have is a member of staff who is willing to listen and offer suggestions. Mrs Hibbert is passionate about helping children, and their families, through these challenging times and has recently taken the role of behaviour support worker.
If this is something that might be of interest then please contact Mrs Hibbert via the school office.
Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA)
Many of you may never of heard of this. As a school neither had we until we had a child diagnosed with it. It is a neurodevelopmental disorder which is increasingly viewed as part of the 'autism spectrum' but requires very different management. It is a lifelong disability characterised by obsessively resisting the everyday demands of life. They are not being 'naughty'! By understanding the condition and some of the strategies that can work we are learning how best to support children and their families coping with this disorder.
One of the best pieces of advice we can offer is to think of it as an anxiety disorder, where any demands, or even 'perceived demands', can make a child feel extremely anxious. They are not in control of these emotions. By better understanding how things make them feel, and subsequently behave, we have learnt to make adjustments in our handling of children with PDA to make their environment less stressful and help them reach a place where learning can take place.
The PDA website above, and their forum, are a source of help, support and information.